I am a counselor and what you learn in counseling 101 is that self-care is pretty much number one. Why? Well, it’s sort of like the airplane. Take care of yourself before you take care of those around you. If you are not finding time to take care of yourself then everyone around you is going to suffer as well. I was a counselor before I became a mother. Becoming a mother threw a whole new spin on taking care of everyone and everything around me. It felt like even though I knew I should be taking care of me, there really just was no time for that.
Well, my beautiful (on the inside and out) friend Jessica Turner wrote a book and has created wonderful materials based on helping us find our fringe ours. The Fringe Hours is about finding the little moments of time during the day for just you. Moments of time where you can do the things you’ve been wanting to do and who make you uniquely you. The things that maybe you have been neglecting. The things that spark creativity that may be extinguished right now. I couldn’t be more proud to work together with Jessica on this partnered post.
My assignment was to track my activities for a week using a super handy time tracker. Now, this is not just a day to day tracker, we are talking hour by hour tracking every single day. I understand that the thought of this may have you running in the other direction, but believe me, it is absolutely necessary to discovering where your fringe hours lay. So, make sure you download your time tracker and get started!
For me, the fringe hours happen in the evening. The evenings are when my creative juices flow, when I can gather my thoughts and the house is silent. A lot of times I use this time to work on blog related items. I could say that this would NOT have been a fringe hour for me about a year ago. However, I’ve decided that this blog has to be full of the things I love and spark creativity rather than the things I feel like I am doing begrudgingly. I also found out that even though I am NOT a morning person, it sure would be nice to wake up early, get things going and not rush through my mornings like I usually do. So, I am going to give that a try this week as well (wish me luck and pour me some coffee)! My time tracking week was also different because it was full of sick babies. Both of my boys came down with a horrible fever and cough. Davis was struck particularly hard and has now developed a touch of pneumonia. So, there was a lot of lost sleep, time spent cuddling and work of all sorts was pushed to the side. And guess what? I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Jessica also touches on a subject that I think resonates for most of us if we are care givers or just as women in general. It is the topic of saying “no”. Ugh. This has been such a hard lesson for me over the years. I would find myself over extending time and time again just because I didn’t want to let someone down. Here’s the deal. I ended up not only letting people down (because I couldn’t follow through with everything) but I was letting myself down and beating myself up with guilt. It’s just not worth it. Do I still fall into that trap? Absolutely, but I have found ways to politely say “no” over the years and have decided that if isn’t filling me or my family up it just has to go!
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I would highly recommend these books to anyone who feels like they are struggling with finding balance. There are so many practical take aways and it is super encouraging. Here’s the thing, now is the time to buy! This week only you can purchase the Kindle Edition of The Fringe Hours for only $2.99! If you have a device just download the Kindle app (you don’t have to own a Kindle). Make sure to check out My Fringe Hours as well. This is a handy way to help you work through where you are and offers so many great tips.
How about you? Do you find yourself trying to carve out more time in your day? I’d love to hear about it!
I did receive compensation for the time it took to create this post. However, all ideas and opinions are my own. I truly value the information found in these books and think they are worth sharing and sharing again!